Unlocking ADHD writer, Constance Thum, explores how ADHD teens may deal with bullying, be imparted with social skills, and manage stress points like exams to promote healthy interpersonal relationships and emotional wellness for such adolescents.
Dealing with Bullying
Bullying is unfortunately a common occurrence for children and teens who are going through a transitional period in their lives that is mired with self-doubt and insecurity. According to a Swedish Study in 2008, ADHD children are ten times more likely to be victims of bullies, and three times more likely to be bullies themselves.
With the high prevalence of bullying, especially among ADHD adolescents, dealing with bullying is an important issue that should be addressed. There are four main types of bullying:
- physical bullying (e.g. assaults),
- verbal bullying (eg. coercion, threats, and insults),
- social bullying (eg. ostracising) and
- cyber bullying.
When encountering a bully, ADHD teens should notify their parents and teachers about the situation for appropriate measures to be carried out. If ADHD adolescents do approach their bullies, they should be confident and use non-provocative language. But in general, ADHD adolescents should avoid physical confrontation to ensure the situation does not escalate into a fight that may hurt all involved.
When responding to online bullies, ADHD adolescents may consider flagging the post or alerting the platform managers to take down the content. In the event that the offline or online bullying continues or worsens into death threats, ADHD teens may consider filing an official report with the school board and/or law enforcement agencies.
Bullying can have a slew of serious effects on the emotional wellbeing and self-esteem of teens, who may become depressed, anxious, and even suicidal. Adults may help ADHD teens deal with bullying by taking them seriously and having an open discussion (further information).
This will help victims of bullying feel understood and less alone in their predicament. Schools should also consider organising talks on bullying and management strategies, as well as establishing clear rules on actions taken against bullies. By working together, parents and educators can ensure that ADHD adolescents receive all-round protection and support (further information).
Imparting Social Skills
Forming sustainable, healthy relationships may be a struggle for ADHD adolescents who deal with inattentiveness, hyperactivity and impulsiveness. To support the development of social skills, adults may engage in role-playing with teens to simulate a social interaction with peers, authorities, and others. This may give ADHD teens more assurance and confidence to engage with others in a similar fashion. Parents may also discuss media content such as social cues and norms presented on television and in film. It would also be beneficial for adults to give ADHD adolescents timely feedback regarding their social skills and behaviour (more information).
School-based counsellors may be a feasible option for ADHD students facing social and relationship problems. School counsellors may be able to triangulate information with parents and educators to create a sustainable, tailored plan to impart social skills in ADHD teens. Meanwhile, for teens still struggling with social skills, the Ministry of Education (MOE) has implemented anti-bullying and anti-cyberbullying policies in schools to protect vulnerable youths, which may include ADHD teens (more information). In the statement provided by MOE, the ministry highlighted the importance of Character and Citizenship Education which serves to teach empathy and respect. These social skills may likewise be applicable to ADHD teens in need of acquiring more social skills.
Managing Exams and Stress
Major stress points for adolescents are exams, schoolwork, relationship issues, and personal problems. ADHD teens may feel overstimulated when encountered with stressful events, and management of emotional and mental strain is crucial for their wellbeing. According to a 2015 psychiatric study, useful stress management techniques include external help (e.g coaching, therapy, discussions), planning in advance, and practicing acceptance and self-control.
Educating ADHD teens about stress management and treatment options may prevent them from feeling overwhelmed, and that hope for improvement lies within reach!
